Build Yourself Back Even Better

Build a Better You

Every now and then, we self-analyze. We think of clean slates, new motivators, ideas or habits. However, if we are completely honest, we all face the same old risk of falling back into old patterns. Most of us have abandoned our resolutions within a month, most times making those declarations a distant memory. Staying focused on a goal isn’t about hype or fancy planners. It’s about the discipline of small intentional changes every day. It means being mindful of performing those unglamorous things that isn’t worth posting to our social media outlets because adapting to change, even if its’ for our good can be exhausting. Here are some suggestions on how to keep your eyes on the prize when the hype around change beings to fade.

1. Just Get Started!

The first goal after setting a goal is to just get started and be specific about the goal. Remember, procrastination kills dreams! If your goal is vague, it’s easy to compromise and abandon it. Saving more money sounds like a great goal, but if you put a weekly or monthly dollar value on it you are more likely to stick to it. If something like “I will save one hundred dollars out of every paycheck” is a goal you can achieve; you will feel a sense of accomplishment each payday. This will help you feel empowered and in control of your finances. If you’d like to get into shape, set a goal to walk three times a week on your lunch break. This is a goal that is easy to achieve because you are already at your work place. The hassle of driving to the gym after work is eliminated if you implement getting in shape into your work day. A specific goal helps to create a routine and gives you direction. Once you discipline is infused in your strategy, the momentum will become second nature.

2. The Power of Routine

Successful people rely on routines. When we establish routines, we take the guess work out of what to do next. A decision doesn’t have to be made because a routine encourages accountability and over time positive results will manifest. Routines remove distraction so we can stay the course to achieve our goal.

Create your routine but remember to alternate tasks related to your goal to lessen boredom. Have a slightly varying schedule during the week. It could look like Monday, Wednesday and Friday I will go for walks during lunch break. However on Tuesday and Thursday I will catch up on my reading list at lunchtime. Anchor routines around activities, professional or personal commitments to ensure consistency. The idea is to create a routine you look forward to doing which will keep you motivated even on days you just don’t feel like following through.

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The Heartbeat of God is YOU!

Obligations…..we all have some. We are overbooked with deadlines, over worked at our jobs, over looked by peers and overwhelmed with family activities. We wonder sometimes how to meet our commitments and eek out some time for ourselves, family and friends. How can we pay all the bills, meet the need of our loved ones and be there for everything else without compromising our own peace and tranquility? In these stressful days, we’ve seemed to have lost the art of relationship. We don’t take walks with our spouses like we used to or take the kids to the park as often as we should. Even digging into a great book in our leisure time has become a lost pleasure for most of us. We are so consumed with duties but empty on how to relate to our fellowman. When do we just slow down, to take an inventory to re-evaluate the importance of all we do, or lack thereof?

God knows that there are essential tasks that have to be completed to sustain our lives but our society seems to have a deficit when meeting our commitment to Him. We remember to pay debts but fail to give praise to the one who has provided employment. We care for our families but many times are too busy to worship the one who keeps them healthy. Why do we seek to be blessed, yet ignore the one who sheds an abundance of grace on us each day?

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Cultivating A Ministry Culture Around COVID-19

The spring of the year 2020 will forever be historic in America. It was in the spring of 2020 that most Americans came face to face with the Corona Virus also known as COVID-19. This highly contagious viral infection has been the reason schools, businesses, daycare centers, movie theaters and even churches have been locked down. Disney has closed all of their theme parks for the first time since opening in 1955. Supermarkets can hardly keep food on the shelves, especially items such as hand sanitizer, toilet tissue and paper towels. In the midst of all the panic, what is the role of the church? Or of the believer? I have experienced conversations with people who were wondering how is it that houses of worship have gone dark. Why are the doors shut on houses of God? Why are there no live streams, prayer calls or videos to offer hope? Very few pastors appear to be reaching out to parishioners during this season and those who are mature in the faith seemed disillusioned while babes in the faith seem bewildered. Everyone is looking for answers and leaders in the body of Christ have a Godly responsibility to nurture the flock in this season. True leaders take situations like a pandemic or other disaster to point people toward the cross; encouraging them to embrace God’s word.

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Let’s Become Infectious

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There was a time when I was growing up in the pentecostal/holiness sect of Christianity we were indoctrinated with the idea that certain “places” believers should never allow themselves to go. The idea of creating friendships with those who are believed to live a more carnal lifestyle supposedly “destroyed your testimony” and “compromises” your very salvation. After living most of my adult life as a believer, I simply beg to differ on this approach. This fear based teaching, that you can lose your salvation through associating with unbelievers is not scriptural.

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Is Deliverance A Thing of the Past?

The church in America is seriously under attack, this is nothing new. What is disturbing is that there are thousands upon thousands (I think I’m low balling this estimate here) of unprepared ministry leaders who are “trying” to operate in the arena of deliverance. Friends, this is a bad combination. It’s like being on a battlefield with a water pistol and you don’t even have any water. We are seeing a surge in new ministries but what we are not seeing more of is people who know how to worship and people who’ve experienced a radical, life changing deliverance. If we don’t have a measure of deliverance from bondages that hinder us, we are just a bunch of cheerleaders meeting every week that is ineffective in the Kingdom. I’m not mocking gathering at a church building at all. They are necessary for gaining instruction in the word and spiritual strength. However, we need to keep worship, prayer, and deliverance on our radar so that lives will be transformed. The true call of the church is to minister to the unsaved. Continue reading “Is Deliverance A Thing of the Past?”

He Shed, She Shed But What Has God Said?

chapterThis past weekend I attended a home and patio show in my city. One of the vendors was selling sheds. These were not the structures one would see anywhere in America that is usually placed in the backyard to house their gardening tools. He was selling sheds as a counterpart to the man cave concept. He asked me was I in the market for one and I politely declined. He inquired why while sharing how beautiful they are, how they offer a place of solace and serenity etc. I reiterated that I wouldn’t need one. I replied to him that I have a home. He seemed puzzled while becoming irritated that he obviously wouldn’t make a sale with me that day. I explained to him that separate spaces are not the answer for a happy family; no matter how beautifully arrayed the structure. At this point he rudely walked away. The idea followed me home and God began to deal with me about how our society seeks separateness, yet yearn for relationship. Continue reading “He Shed, She Shed But What Has God Said?”

Pray On Demand

IMG_5316Around Christmastime last year, I received a phone call from the daughter of a lady I met while volunteering at a local nursing home. She had a multitude of health issues and as she recounted them, my heart went out to her. She was particularly upset that her medical problems and upcoming treatments would inhibit her ability to travel to Florida to see her Mom for the holidays. As she spoke, God whispered in my ear “Can you pray on demand?” I thought to myself what is praying on demand? How do I process this? This woman felt her prayers to God were unheard and that she was alone in this process she was experiencing. After pondering this thought for a bit, Continue reading “Pray On Demand”

Foundational Truths

BB2013I take great pride in letting people know I’m from New York City. In my opinion, it was the best place in the world to grow up. In NYC, there exists such a variety of cultures that make living there very exciting. I was raised in the borough of Brooklyn, NY yet love to share little known facts about New York City in general. Why? Because I love my city! Recently, while in attendance at a seminar Continue reading “Foundational Truths”

Our Hateful, Hopeful World….

riotThe world is a hateful place. We keep looking for counterfeit peace so we continually protest, host marches and coordinate rallies. Truth of the matter is there will never be peace among nations or among races for that matter. Never….How can I know that? You ask. I know because Continue reading “Our Hateful, Hopeful World….”

Take the Right Picture…..

GEDSC DIGITAL CAMERAMy husband and I had been home together for the last four days. We didn’t do much, just chores about the house and watched some TV. We only wanted to relax so Thursday and Friday was great, but Saturday we became a bit restless so we went out and saw a movie. On Sunday of that week, I decided it would be nice to get out of the house once again so I suggested we go to the beach. My husband wanted to avoid the crowds at our local beach and we drove to another one about an hour away in another city. Continue reading “Take the Right Picture…..”